The Inner Healer - Interview with Anne Ferrier Crook

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Welcome to the joyful journey podcast. If

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you're uncertain about what you really want or unsure how to be

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a force or good, you know this world craves, then this is the

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show for you. I'm Anita Adams, your host and guide to finding

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clarity and creating a life you love. Let's tap into our inner

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wisdom, access our highest self and unleash joy. As we raise our

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vibration, we heighten the collective consciousness and

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that, my friends, is the joyful journey. Let's dive in. Hey,

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joyful journey yours, Anita Adams here, your host, and I'm

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so excited to introduce you to my new friend and cook. Hey,

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Ann, how are you?

Anne Ferrier Crook: 00:00:50

Hi, Anita. I'm doing well. Thank you. So

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excited

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to have you here and is a certified Integrative

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Health Coach holding space consultant, certified birth

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doula, doula and certified medical interpreter in Spanish,

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I believe she loves supporting others to heal and transform

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their lives. So they can shift from surviving to fully

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thriving, and supports clients to reignite their inner healer

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for greater joy and vitality. And that's just the icing on the

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cake of what N does. And I'm gonna put her full bio in the

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show notes and her contact information below cuz you're

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gonna want to connect with this lady and find out more. I love

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everything about what you do. And and I'm, I'm really curious,

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I want to know your story, your journey that led you here to do

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this specific work. So can we start there?

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Sure. That sounds great. Thank you so much. It's

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such an honor to be here. First off, I was so drawn to the name

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of your podcast, joyful journey, because I believe that when we

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reignite joy, in our spirit on any kind of healing journey

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we're on our body comes into a healing state. And so my journey

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is that for sure, I had gone through a lot of chronic health

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challenges. And as I was moving through some of those chronic

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health challenges, I realized that I have to reignite my

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spirit, and my soul in this healing process to reignite my

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joy. And when I'm in that place of expansion versus contraction,

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then my body is going to heal. And that's exactly what it's

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done. And that's kind of my idea of how you shift from surviving

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something to actually thriving. I love that

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I really,

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I love the language that you you choose to live

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there, the words are so powerful. Um, he's talking about

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reigniting the spirit, nourishing the soul, you say

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some of the stuff on your website and how it's essential

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for healing the process. And you talk about being tapping into

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that inner healer. So I want to, I want to dive into that a

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little bit more. What is that inner healer? And how, how do

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you reignite the spirit and nourish the soul? Hmm,

Unknown: 00:03:10

good question. So I believe we all have an inner

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healer that lives inside of us. And whether you call it the

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inner healer or something else, it's that part of you, where our

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body innately knows how to heal, when we surround it with the

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right ingredients, the right nourishing ingredients, whether

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that be the foods we're putting in our mouth every day, how

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we're sleeping, how we're managing our stress, the people

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in our lives, the relationships that are nourishing us, you

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know, are they draining us? Are they nourishing us. And so when

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we start to like, really trust our intuition, and trust what

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our body's messages are saying to us, because our body is

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always talking to us. And when we have a chronic disease, as I

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call it, the body's out of ease, and has fallen out of balance.

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If we start to listen to those messages, then we can start to

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really get to know this inner healer, because our body has

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that wisdom that that will lead us to the right people to the

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right places. And so that's the first step to get in touch with

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your inner healer is to start listening to your body's

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messages, and really tuning in to what it's saying. And and

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also just trusting your intuition. Because we all have a

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gut instinct about what the right choices are.

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Yeah, trusting that I think is is really important.

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And a lot of people don't they're not they don't trust

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that at you know, I grew up with a father who was he'd always

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tell me to, you know, use my brain, you know, and and kind of

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mock my intelligence. So I use my brain, you know, and I would

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discard anything that was feeling based that intuition, I

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suppress them. And I've had conversations with a number of

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people that They've experienced the same thing. Like they've had

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gut instincts before, but they haven't learned to trust it is

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there? How do you learn to trust that? Is it muscles? I don't

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know, like, what are your thoughts on that?

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Well, it's interesting, you talk about, you know, being

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in that headspace because I feel like the biggest journey for so

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many of us is literally from here to here. Yeah, from head to

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toe heart, it's about a foot, you know, about 12 inches or so.

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But it can be the longest journey to to, to like, instead

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of living from neck up, we actually become more embodied.

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And we start to live from our heart, from our solar plexus,

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our belly. And as we make choices, like especially very

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important choices, when you're on a healing journey from a

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medical diagnosis, it's really important to come from calm,

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intuitive action, versus anxious action, which kind of comes from

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here up from the headspace. And so for me, personally, what's

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really helped me is starting to, you know, close my eyes and, and

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I do a meditation technique called TM, transcendental

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meditation 20 minutes a day. And for me, this is just the

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practice of listening to my body and slowing my thoughts down.

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But that's not you know, even if you're not a meditator, there

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are other ways that we can be more mindful of what's coming up

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in our body just from, you know, focusing on our breathing, you

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know, and how is my breathing? Is it shallow? Is it from my

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chest up? Or is it from my belly, that deep abdominal

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breathing? And what I like to say is that helps us get into a

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relax, rest and digest state, which is healing versus fight

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flight, living from head up.

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Hmm. Yeah. And so I'm breathing right now. Like, I

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just No, notice, just saying the word breathing is like, Okay,

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well, I gotta breathe, like I can get shallow in my, my

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breath, right? And we need to breathe in deeply and take the

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time to really feel it. Can you explain your meditation process

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and checking in with your body?

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Well, so with the, with the TM technique that I do, I

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just do a 20 minute meditation, and I have a mantra, it's more

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like a sound, it's not really a word. It's more like a sound.

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And I just bring my attention back to that. And what's really,

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what really resonates for me about this particular technique

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is that if you have thoughts, that's actually a welcomed part

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of the meditation, so many people struggle in meditation to

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like, get rid of their thoughts. Oh, I'm not supposed to be

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thinking. What they say in TM is it actually you're thinking your

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body's releasing stress. And it's part of the meditation,

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where your body is literally like, releasing stress from your

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nervous system. And then you just gently bring your awareness

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back to that sound back to that mantra. And however, it turns

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out, it's so it's okay, it's all part of how your body is

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processing things. So, you know, I grew up as an athlete,

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actually, and I've always been somatic based. So meditation

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never really worked for me until I found this technique. And it's

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the first time I've been able to feel the benefit, like not just

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emotionally feeling great, but also physically feeling things

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unwind in my body.

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So I'm a little unclear because I'm, I've had

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I've struggled with meditation, I do meditate, and it is getting

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easier over time. But, you know, you talking about how it's okay

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to let the thoughts come up. And that that has been one of the

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things that I think has stopped me many times in the past is

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just like, Oh, I gotta stop this chatter in my head. How do I

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stop it? And I get kind of welled up and I'm like, Ah, I

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just give up. You know, it's like, I can't seem to stop it.

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And so I love what you're, what you're talking about is that's

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part of it, just actually allowing yourself giving

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yourself permission to have that dialogue. If and let it let it

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come and let it go. And then and then what like what is I want to

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I want to know, you know, what you do to listen to your body

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and really get tuned in?

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Well, so much of my own healing journey because I you

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know, I had some major health scares that I've gone through,

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I'm a stage one breast cancer survivor, and I like to say

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thriver um, but a big part of my healing journey has been like

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seeing that as an opportunity and a wake up call to really

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show up differently in my life and versus coming at life from a

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pushing and striving at all costs. You know, really kind of

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coming into this gentle space of allowing and receiving and

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trusting. And so for me, meditation is a great

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opportunity to practice that. Just surrender control and

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realize if I'm having thoughts just kind of surrendered that

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and allow them to come. And then gently bring my awareness back

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to my breath back to my, you know, back to my mantra, which,

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which I it's more like a sound. But it's not a pushing and

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striving kind of energy. It's more like a softer sort of

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feminine, I like to call it energy of receiving and allowing

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and trusting.

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Okay, I'm sorry, if I keep pushing on this, I want

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to know, what is your body telling you though, like, if

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you're like it, what I'm, I think I'm hearing you talk about

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is that we have to listen to our body telling us that there's

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something wrong. So how, how does that show up in your body

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talking to you, I know that it disease is obvious, you know,

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like, but at that point, it feels like it's almost too late.

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Right? Like, I mean, you can obviously do things to help

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reduce the, the, the disease or deal with a disease, but I want

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to not be in the place of disease, I want to be able to be

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so attuned to my body, that I am taking preventative measures

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when things start going out of alignment. Do you have any tips

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on how to do that?

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Absolutely. So I think that I like to say our body

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whispers before it screams. And so if we're listening to the

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whispers, then we never have to wind up with a major medical

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diagnosis down the road. Because, you know, as we age,

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like our bodies are more susceptible to disease, it's,

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um, but they're there ways to actually prevent that from

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happening and actually have this amazing sense of longevity and

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great health. And so, so when it whispers sometimes it could be

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like, I know, it's different for all of us. But for me,

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personally, if I'm feeling stressed, I start to feel it in

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my solar plexus, I start to feel it in my jaw. I just start to

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feel kind of contracted. And so I know, okay, my body's

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stressed. And I need to just take a step back and start to

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deepen my breath, you know, how am I breathing, my breathing

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shallow. Um, and so just getting aware of your breath and notice,

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are you breathing deeply? Are you breathing shallow, because

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when the body's in that stress state, which is chronic stress,

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then that is what raises our risk factors for disease,

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because it creates something called chronic inflammation

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throughout the body, which is probably about 80% of chronic

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illness and disease is because of this chronic state of

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inflammation. But when we slow down, we focus on our breath,

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and we come into our body, instead of just living from our

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head, we actually go back into that healing state. Okay, so,

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um, would you ask your body like, if you're in a

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meditative state, or you're lying down? Would you be in

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inquiry, like, where do I feel tense? Like, am I do I feel in

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my, in my jaw? Do I feel tension in my shoulder pecs is, is that

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sort of like the check in is that what you're doing to check

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in and ask and do almost like a body scan,

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that's one thing I do is you know, just closing my

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eyes and tuning in to where am I feeling that stress in my body

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and really sending my deep breathing to that part of me to

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kind of almost envision it, uh, you know, being contracted like

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a contracted fifth and then expanding living with an open

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palm. Another thing that I love to do because I'm very

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outdoorsy, and I love I love nature is and I'm very somatic

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as well, very physical. And so when I feel stressed, like

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sometimes what actually works better than me than meditation

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is to get outside and to take a walk in the forest.

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talking my language.

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Like I'm actually more inclined to do that than I am to

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meditate. I love meditating. But I'm very outdoorsy and and I you

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know, I I've always been very kinesthetic, I think is the

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right word. And so for me, like getting into the forest is so

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healing and I love the water. Here in Tennessee, we have

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amazing waterfall hikes. And so one of my favorite things is to

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go swimming under the waterfalls.

Anita Adams: 00:14:19

Ah, awesome. I love that about you. That's so cool.

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And yeah, you're totally talking my language. My my go to to like

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I'm, I'm getting better at meditation. I just I really have

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a hard time just shutting down sometimes. And maybe I've got to

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stop thinking I got to shut my brain down and maybe that's part

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of the problem. But the walks in nature. Oh, it's just as

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restorative you know, like I could just and and I find I I

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actually breathe deeply and intentionally when I'm walking

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through nature. I also like to kayak and I get that same

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feeling sitting on the ocean. It's just this restored of

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breathing in. And though I feel my whole body, just relax.

Unknown: 00:15:11

I love that. Yeah. When you said I could almost smell

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the water, I was just almost smelling the saltwater with you.

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I know you live near the ocean and I also love to kayak we have

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some great rivers in Tennessee and I go kayaking as well.

Anita Adams: 00:15:24

Awesome. Well, I'm gonna come for a visit some

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dive, and you're gonna have some kayaking rivers to do.

Unknown: 00:15:31

You are so invited. Cool.

Anita Adams: 00:15:34

Um, I've heard you speak about your higher power.

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And that higher consciousness, and the role we have in

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elevating that consciousness. I think, though, I think I pulled

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that actually from something you said somewhere that, you know,

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we, that we have a role to play in elevating that consciousness?

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Can you? Can you speak to that a little bit?

Unknown: 00:15:56

Well, um, you know, everybody has their own beliefs.

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But I really believe that, you know, we have a mind, body,

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heart, spirit and soul. And, you know, so for me, it's very

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personal for all of us. But my belief is that, you know, I have

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a higher power, that part of me that knows that all is well and

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doesn't need to be, you know, in fear, or in that sort of fear

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based action I was talking about earlier, coming from a racing

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mind. But it's more of that calm, intuitive knowing. So

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really, you know, coming at a situation, like what really

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helps me personally deal with adversity is when I have

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something stressful I'm facing, to create this healing mindset

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to say, what can I learn from this, there's something that my

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spirit must have called in to learn from this situation. So

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not only can I grow from it, but I can actually pay it forward

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and support other people to do the same thing. So having that

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kind of mindset has helped me personally connect more with my

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higher power, and kind of see things through a spiritual lens

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versus, you know, it's sort of woe is me, like, why is this

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happening? And just getting stuck down in the lower thinking

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that we can all

Anita Adams: 00:17:13

Yeah, and that that lower thinking, I think it shuts

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us down to doesn't it? It doesn't allow us to access that,

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that inner wisdom. Whereas if we're, we are coming from a

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place of love instead of fear, then we're expansive. And we're

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open to receiving. Exactly, exactly receiving the messages

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in the end the gifts and I believe there are gifts in every

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adversity.

Unknown: 00:17:44

Exactly, exactly. And I mean, it I love what you said

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about the contraction and expansion because I actually

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just went through a grief work training this past summer. And

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one thing that the the instructor was talking about is

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how we go through these waves of contraction and expansion in

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life. And even if we're going through something difficult, we

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don't have to necessarily be completely contracted, we can

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kind of softly open to allow those emotions to come up and

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just kind of move through us and I believe that can help help

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kind of ease the burden of whatever that life experiences.

Unknown: 00:18:20

Yeah.

Anita Adams: 00:18:22

Yeah, and being self aware, and being able to

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sit back and step outside of the challenges I guess that that are

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we we are confronted with. And being on attached I think is is

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important, isn't it, you know, attached to outcomes or

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unattached to the challenges that we're facing and so you can

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look at it and and say what is mine to learn here? What is mine

Anita Adams: 00:18:57

to understand? Mm hmm I think being an inquiry constantly is

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so key and I like to believe you know that I believe in the I

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believe in god i But I believe in divine within I believe we

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are all one you know, I have some really strong beliefs

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around around the stuff which which I haven't openly shared

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before and I'm excited to be expansive and share that without

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fear anymore because I know I'm gonna attract the people that

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you know, that are speak my language as well so so I I like

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to have conversations with myself and with God when I'm

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walking in for in the forest, you know, and that is often it's

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part of my healing journey. If I've gone through something

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particularly challenging is having that conversation and

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opening myself up and and being an inquiry. What is my And to

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learn here, what is mine to do, I often have a little prayer

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that I put out to the universe pretty much every day when I go

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for my for my walk and it and I asked for me to be able to see

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what is mine to see, understand what his mind to do and have the

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courage to do it. Yeah, it's a constant little prayer that I

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put out there and, and I feel things. I feel that expansion

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and the fear that I mean fear is normal, right? We all get

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fearful of things. But when we can breathe into it and open our

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heart, like you're talking, you know, going from the journey

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from the head into the heart and opening it, then it dissipates

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the fear of it.

Unknown: 00:20:52

Oh, oh, so much. So, so much. So you know, even just

Unknown: 00:20:55

sometimes when I am calming down my nervous system, I'll just put

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one hand on my heart and one hand on my belly. And just the

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act of that just calms me, um, you know, helps to take me from

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being in my headspace down into my body.

Unknown: 00:21:12

That's a great little tip. Something simple that everybody

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can do.

Anita Adams: 00:21:18

A little action. Now when you're feeling

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stressed, anxious, distressed. Putting one hand on your heart,

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one hand on your belly. And it just, it takes the physical

Anita Adams: 00:21:31

action of doing that. I think it pulls you out of your head and

Anita Adams: 00:21:34

put puts you into being into your body.

Unknown: 00:21:38

Yeah, I can't like I for me, personally, I feel like

Unknown: 00:21:41

the signal it gives my body is. I've got you.

Unknown: 00:21:45

I love that I get to I've got you.

Unknown: 00:21:51

Yeah, like, the first thing that comes to me is I've got you I'm

Unknown: 00:21:54

here, I'm listening. Um, I've got you. And so my body just

Unknown: 00:21:59

kind of relaxes. Because my, whatever part of my body is kind

Unknown: 00:22:03

of in a freakout state, like, I've never noticed that, like,

Unknown: 00:22:06

I'm here, I've got you. We're gonna get through this.

Unknown: 00:22:10

And it's so beautiful. Like we we need to see and

Anita Adams: 00:22:15

love ourselves, first and foremost, right? So

Anita Adams: 00:22:19

true. And that little action. So simple, takes two seconds to do.

Anita Adams: 00:22:25

And it sends a message to your whole being that when I'm

Anita Adams: 00:22:32

worthy. I see you, I got you. This is a safe space.

Unknown: 00:22:38

Exactly. Exactly. And that's what ignites the joy

Unknown: 00:22:41

because when we can walk around in the world, that's when we can

Unknown: 00:22:45

walk around in the world feeling safe, to you know, radiate our

Unknown: 00:22:49

authentic self out in the world and not have like a guard up all

Unknown: 00:22:53

the time. But hat kind of live with our heart open. Um, knowing

Unknown: 00:22:59

that, okay, I've got you like, you know, what's out here is

Unknown: 00:23:01

unpredictable. We never know, you know, what's going to happen

Unknown: 00:23:05

with other people or things. But when we really know inside, I've

Unknown: 00:23:08

got you, um, then that keeps us in that place of safety so we

Unknown: 00:23:12

can actually ignite our joy. That's kind of how I can best

Unknown: 00:23:15

describe it. You're

Unknown: 00:23:16

giving me goosebumps,

Anita Adams: 00:23:18

I love it. I love it so much. I am going to, I'm

Anita Adams: 00:23:22

going to practice that. Practice that I bought you. And it's,

Anita Adams: 00:23:27

that's gonna be I'm adding that into my new daily routine. It's

Anita Adams: 00:23:30

a little simple thing. I got you.

Unknown: 00:23:32

I love that. You know,

Anita Adams: 00:23:35

I said earlier, I I believe I believe we're all one

Anita Adams: 00:23:38

I believe, of the Divine Divine within. And so I picture God

Anita Adams: 00:23:45

saying that, as well. I got you. I love

Unknown: 00:23:48

that. Yeah, me too. Exactly. We you're very aligned

Unknown: 00:23:52

as as far as our thinking, you know, because it's not just us

Unknown: 00:23:56

with ourselves. But I also believe there's a higher power

Unknown: 00:23:59

that that has that has us Yeah, and that's that's been a big

Unknown: 00:24:04

part of my journey actually is trusting that you know, because

Unknown: 00:24:06

I think that 20 years ago earlier on my life path I don't

Unknown: 00:24:10

think I was fully living in that trusting place place that life

Unknown: 00:24:14

fully had my back and and so I was always like pushing and

Unknown: 00:24:17

striving and being self sufficient. And that just that

Unknown: 00:24:20

led me to breaking down from stress that led me to some

Unknown: 00:24:23

chronic health issues. And now on the other side of that I am

Unknown: 00:24:27

honestly proud to say I'm now in this trusting place of like,

Unknown: 00:24:30

knowing that life has my back

Anita Adams: 00:24:33

and isn't there a freedom that comes with that and

Anita Adams: 00:24:37

there obviously that sense of joy, this freedom to just go

Anita Adams: 00:24:45

with the flow to like I I'm there with you and I I don't

Anita Adams: 00:24:49

have I'm ambitious, I am ambitious. I've got big goals

Anita Adams: 00:24:54

and and dreams and I love going after them. However, I'm not

Anita Adams: 00:24:59

happy hustling, like I used to. Mm hmm. I'm going with that I

Anita Adams: 00:25:03

feel, I feel supported, I feel connected, I feel loved, I feel

Anita Adams: 00:25:10

joy. And there's this joy that moves through me and with me,

Anita Adams: 00:25:16

and it's carrying me and I feel like it's because I've tapped

Anita Adams: 00:25:23

into that. Mm hmm. into that inner wisdom into that

Anita Adams: 00:25:28

understanding of this higher this higher consciousness, this

Anita Adams: 00:25:34

higher, higher self. Mm hmm.

Unknown: 00:25:38

I love that it's like you can have you can still be

Unknown: 00:25:41

hustler and still be like, you know, motivated, but doing it

Unknown: 00:25:45

from a place of joy and, and calm, sort of a peacefulness

Unknown: 00:25:51

mixed in with that versus fear. You know, that's a real

Unknown: 00:25:55

different space to be when we feel like we're hustling, right?

Anita Adams: 00:25:59

100% different space,

Unknown: 00:26:01

I believe there's really two

Anita Adams: 00:26:04

fundamental emotions, and that's fear and

Anita Adams: 00:26:07

joy and love, fear and love. And you can choose, you know, to

Anita Adams: 00:26:12

come from a place of fear, you can choose to come from a place

Anita Adams: 00:26:16

of love. And it doesn't mean that you you stop fearing you

Anita Adams: 00:26:20

can still have, fear can be there, but your actions, the

Anita Adams: 00:26:23

choices you make, always choose to come from a place of love.

Anita Adams: 00:26:28

And you will be so well served, you know, we get to love our

Anita Adams: 00:26:31

bodies and take care of our bodies and love ourselves and

Anita Adams: 00:26:36

love our new love and all that.

Unknown: 00:26:38

I love. And I love how you said you can still have the

Unknown: 00:26:40

fear. I mean, it's not like it's just gonna go away forever. It's

Unknown: 00:26:43

part of being human. But when it comes up, you know, coming to

Unknown: 00:26:47

that fear with with a place of love, like compassionate

Unknown: 00:26:50

presence. Yeah. And so then it allows the fear just just to be

Unknown: 00:26:55

there and be present without it overtaking us. Absolutely.

Anita Adams: 00:26:59

Yeah. Very cool. Oh, my gosh, I feel like you and

Anita Adams: 00:27:03

I can just keep chatting about the joy cycle. I love it. He

Anita Adams: 00:27:08

wrote it, you wrote a book, or you were one of the authors and

Anita Adams: 00:27:12

the thresholds 75 stories of how changing your perspective can

Anita Adams: 00:27:17

change your life. Can you talk a little bit about the story, you

Anita Adams: 00:27:21

you included in that in that book can and talk to this

Anita Adams: 00:27:25

changing perspective and how it can change your life?

Unknown: 00:27:27

Yes, thank you. I want to give credit to Simon Crowe

Unknown: 00:27:31

and Robin Ben Schwartz, because they're actually the authors of

Unknown: 00:27:34

the book. And I'm one of the 75 writers who is actually in this

Unknown: 00:27:39

best selling book. So I am one of the authors. However, the

Unknown: 00:27:43

name of the book, I love thresholds, you know, all about

Unknown: 00:27:47

changing your perspective to change your life. And so my

Unknown: 00:27:50

story in that book is called birth as I know it. I have a

Unknown: 00:27:54

background as a certified childbirth doula. And I was

Unknown: 00:27:58

living in Hawaii for eight months. And it was the first

Unknown: 00:28:00

time I had been surrounded by the water, which completely

Unknown: 00:28:04

transformed my perspective of water. Because before I just

Unknown: 00:28:08

knew, Okay, you know, water is really important for our health,

Unknown: 00:28:11

it's important to drink, I love the water. But I had never

Unknown: 00:28:14

really had a spiritual connection with the water like I

Unknown: 00:28:17

did when I was surrounded by ocean. And so for me, like going

Unknown: 00:28:22

back to this story of learning to trust and be at ease and know

Unknown: 00:28:27

that life has my back started during that year, living in

Unknown: 00:28:31

Hawaii, when I was lying on my back in the ocean, which I write

Unknown: 00:28:34

my story about, and how I had, you know, been dealing with some

Unknown: 00:28:39

chronic health issues from stress before that year, and my,

Unknown: 00:28:44

you know, health started to break down. And then Hawaii

Unknown: 00:28:47

happens to have this powerful healing energy about it. And so

Unknown: 00:28:51

it just exploded my awareness about how, for me personally,

Unknown: 00:28:56

what I need to shift is this getting into this allowing

Unknown: 00:28:59

receiving mode, which I like to call more of our feminine

Unknown: 00:29:02

energy. And this was back in 2008, that I was living in

Unknown: 00:29:06

Hawaii. So I write my story about how my birth doula

Unknown: 00:29:10

background, seeing all this birth, I assisted around 200

Unknown: 00:29:14

births in a five year period, and how that came full circle

Unknown: 00:29:19

back to my own health, and how I realized that my passion for

Unknown: 00:29:22

birth is my, my passion for healing and transformation

Unknown: 00:29:25

because I see a lot of parallels as a you've, you've given birth,

Unknown: 00:29:29

right. So you know, that like when you're in childbirth, and

Unknown: 00:29:32

you're in transition, that last stage of labor, you know, it

Unknown: 00:29:35

gets really intense and, and tract. Um, but that's just the

Unknown: 00:29:41

moment where when we can let go and surrender control and just

Unknown: 00:29:45

trust our body that the baby comes out. And what I wrote

Unknown: 00:29:49

about in that article, or that story in the book, is how it's

Unknown: 00:29:52

the same you know, in in your life transitions you go through

Unknown: 00:29:56

if we go through, holding tight and contraction, then We're not

Unknown: 00:30:00

able to heal, but when we can surrender, we can let go and

Unknown: 00:30:03

expand, then word again. There goes, then, you know, our body

Unknown: 00:30:08

opens up as well in a different way. But it goes back into a

Unknown: 00:30:11

healing state. And then all these new opportunities come

Unknown: 00:30:15

from that.

Anita Adams: 00:30:16

Wow, that sounds powerful.

Unknown: 00:30:19

So, yeah, so my story is called birth as I know it,

Unknown: 00:30:24

and it really just kind of combines my knowledge as a

Unknown: 00:30:27

childbirth doula with, with, you know, an experience I went

Unknown: 00:30:30

through in my own health and my own life.

Anita Adams: 00:30:32

Wow, great part of your part of your journey to get

Anita Adams: 00:30:36

you to where you are today.

Unknown: 00:30:37

Exactly.

Anita Adams: 00:30:38

Very cool. I love how all these things happen in

Anita Adams: 00:30:41

our in our lives that inform us and create the path create the

Anita Adams: 00:30:45

path to where we are. Exactly. Very cool. Any, any final

Anita Adams: 00:30:52

comments that you want to share with our audience? Do you have

Anita Adams: 00:30:56

if they if anybody wanted to get in touch with you? Can we put

Anita Adams: 00:30:59

your contact information in the in the show notes? And

Unknown: 00:31:03

absolutely, the best way to get in touch with me is

Unknown: 00:31:06

to go to my website. It's integrative, radiance, calm. And

Unknown: 00:31:10

that's an IV integrative. And on my website, I have a free ebook

Unknown: 00:31:15

called Surviving thriving. And you can download that from the

Unknown: 00:31:19

homepage, the very top, my email addresses on there as well. And

Unknown: 00:31:25

I also am on LinkedIn under my full name and farrier, crook.

Unknown: 00:31:30

But I would love anybody who you know, feels inspired, wants to

Unknown: 00:31:34

connect, I offer a free 40 to 45 minute discovery call. And, you

Unknown: 00:31:39

know, through that we could kind of see, you know, what are your

Unknown: 00:31:42

health and wellness goals right now? What are you struggling

Unknown: 00:31:45

with how I can support you, because I'm not just doing

Unknown: 00:31:47

health coaching with my clients, but I also blend in the

Unknown: 00:31:50

emotional healing and the grief support. And I call that holding

Unknown: 00:31:54

space. And that's also on my website,

Anita Adams: 00:31:58

I was gonna actually ask you about holding

Anita Adams: 00:32:00

space, I was curious about what that what that meant. Can before

Anita Adams: 00:32:04

we go, can you describe that a little bit more what a home

Anita Adams: 00:32:08

consultant is?

Unknown: 00:32:10

Yes, so I'm trained with a wonderful Institute, it's

Unknown: 00:32:13

called the Institute for the Study of birth, breath and

Unknown: 00:32:15

death. Amy Right. Glen is the director. And we have about 1000

Unknown: 00:32:19

members around the world. And as a holding space consultant, I've

Unknown: 00:32:23

been trained to support clients that are dealing with not just

Unknown: 00:32:28

grief and loss, but difficult emotions that get stored in the

Unknown: 00:32:31

body. And so that could be you know, something you went through

Unknown: 00:32:35

30 years ago as a child, but you, you've just kind of pushed

Unknown: 00:32:39

it down and suppressed it. And now it might be showing up

Unknown: 00:32:43

physically, you know, as I call dis ease, and so it's looking

Unknown: 00:32:47

at, well, okay, so what was this childhood loss you experienced?

Unknown: 00:32:51

Or maybe it was something more recent, you know, that was

Unknown: 00:32:54

difficult. And it's holding space for it with compassionate

Unknown: 00:32:57

presence. And so I really helped my clients to tune in to where

Unknown: 00:33:03

it is in the body, you know, how the body's speaking, what what,

Unknown: 00:33:07

what does that need to say? Does it have a language or a color or

Unknown: 00:33:10

a texture, you know, and so you're really coming into

Unknown: 00:33:13

rapport with it versus turning away from it. And often what I

Unknown: 00:33:18

find my clients through these sessions is they, they come to

Unknown: 00:33:21

greater compassion for themselves for one, but they're

Unknown: 00:33:25

able to make deeper meaning making out of that experience.

Unknown: 00:33:28

And, you know, maybe they had this belief, it wasn't what

Unknown: 00:33:31

happened to them, but it's actually the belief they formed,

Unknown: 00:33:34

and they're actually able to reframe those beliefs and, and

Unknown: 00:33:38

come out on the other end with a tremendous sense of just courage

Unknown: 00:33:43

and compassion for themselves. And so I feel like that part of

Unknown: 00:33:49

the healing process is just as important is looking at the

Unknown: 00:33:52

foods they're eating, how they're sleeping in their

Unknown: 00:33:55

lifestyle. So I blend these two together.

Anita Adams: 00:33:58

very holistic approach. Yes. Awesome. Well,

Anita Adams: 00:34:02

wonderful. Thank you so much, and for being here with with me

Anita Adams: 00:34:06

today and with the joyful journey errs. It's really a

Anita Adams: 00:34:10

pleasure to get to know you a little bit more and I really

Anita Adams: 00:34:13

sincerely hope we can continue to have some discussions around

Anita Adams: 00:34:17

joy but tapping into that inner wisdom listening to our bodies,

Anita Adams: 00:34:21

that higher collective the higher consciousness I love this

Anita Adams: 00:34:24

stuff. So it's really great to connect with another like minded

Anita Adams: 00:34:28

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Anita Adams: 00:34:32

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