Episode 9

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26th Jan 2022

Understanding the Power of How We Think - Interview with NPL Trainer Adele Anderson

In today’s episode, I interview Adele Anderson, an NLP Trainer who is passionate about teaching people to understand the power of the mind and how changing your thinking can change your life. 

Adele shares a fascinating personal story about a plane crash she was in as a young woman that flipped in a river. What happened that fateful day changed the trajectory of her life as she became committed to understanding the power of the mind. As an NLP Trainer, she coaches people on how to reprogram their thoughts so they can create the outcomes they desire for their life.

To learn about the story that brought Adele and me together, listen to Episode #8 Coincidences: Gifts from the Universe.

Highlight’s from this episode:

Making choices about your story.

Maslow’s hierarchy of needs

Awareness of your thoughts and word choice is key to changing outcomes

Understanding your core values is your ‘true north’

How “I am” statements define you

Standing in your own power

Words your brain cannot process - “Don’t”, “Can’t”, “Try”

To manifest successfully - use present tense, direct and concise language

How to use the Seven Layers of Why to understand what you really want

Recommended book: The Obstacle is the Way, by Ryan Holiday

About Our Guest Adele Anderson:

As a survivor of a plane that crashed and flipped in a river, I know now that anything is possible when we make the right choice at the right time. As an NLP Trainer and Grief Coach, I serve leaders who require strategies for coping in life, not just influencing productivity and the bottom line. I offer 1:1 and group training in different aspects of NLP or international certification. Clients express a deep sense of fulfillment and ease, feel confident in their leadership skills; and experience expanded feelings of Life satisfaction.


How to connect with Adele Anderson:

Website: https://lifecoachadele.com

Email: adele@fulfillyourdestiny.ca

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lifecoachadeleanderson


Thanks for listening!

If you want to learn more about what I teach around finding clarity and creating a life you love full of purpose, passion, and joy, I encourage you to join our community at Joyful Inspired Living. Here’s the link: http://www.joyfuljourney.ca/


About your host:

I’m your host, Anita Adams, an award-winning leader and the founder of Joyful Inspired Living, an organization dedicated to teaching people how to access their highest most authentic selves so they can find clarity and create a life of purpose, passion, and joy. In addition to hosting the Joyful Journey Podcast, I offer retreats, both live and online, and private coaching programs to further guide my clients on their journey to their highest selves.


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Transcript
Anita Adams:

Welcome to the joyful journey podcast. If

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you're uncertain about what you really want, or unsure how to be

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a force for good, you know this world craves, then this is the

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show for you. I'm Anita Adams, your host and guide to finding

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clarity and creating a life you love. Let's tap into our inner

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wisdom, access our highest self and unleash joy. As we raise our

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vibration, we heighten the collective consciousness. And

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that, my friends, is the joyful journey. Let's dive in. Hey,

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joyful journey yours. And Anita Adams here, your host of the

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joyful journey podcast. And I'm so excited to introduce you to

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an incredible woman who has so much to give to the world and

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who I believe I was divinely guided to find. If there's time

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I will tell that story. And if not, I'll add it to the show

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notes because there are no coincidences. And here we are.

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Welcome, and thank you so much for joining me today.

Adele Anderson:

Yeah, so we'll leave everybody with a little

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bit of wondering because it really was whimsical. Meeting up

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with Anita again, and I'm so happy to be on her podcast

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today. So thank you for asking me.

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And I want to tell people a little bit more about

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you before we dive in. So Adele is a NLP trainer. And how she

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got to this profession is a fascinating story itself and one

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we definitely will talk about. Adele is also a homeopathic

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practitioner, creator and host of the mind your freedom

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podcast, and owner of a beautiful retreat center in

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halfmoon Bay on the Sunshine Coast. Adele is passionate about

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teaching people to understand the power of the mind and how

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changing your thinking can change your life. Adelle truly,

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it's exciting to have you here. I'm so thrilled that we can have

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this conversation today. So again, welcome and thank you.

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Likewise, it's exciting being on a podcast. It's always

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fun.

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I have to admit or tell you that when when we first

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met up and you told me that you are an NLP trainer, I just

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politely nodded my head because I was too embarrassed to admit

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that I didn't really know what that was. I have since done my

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homework, and I understand it better. However, there may be

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some people listening that don't really know what NLP is and

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exactly what you do. So would you dive in and share a little

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bit more with us about what that is?

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Sure. So NLP is an acronym. That's neurolinguistics

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programming. And it was developed in the 70s by a very

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large group of individuals who came from different fields of

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study. So neurology, psychology, cybernetics systems study, or

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systems theory, and programming. So they began to discover that

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the brain actually worked in systems and programs. And as

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business people we understand we want that kind of stuff keeps us

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organized. But what if your brain had the same, or something

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that's similar a system and a program that worked inside your

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brain that can be malleable. So we know that the brain is

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malleable, and now we have processes that are known to just

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update that system. But all we say, Is your mom and dad's 1960.

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TV in your room? Know why? Because the programs are

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outdated, like the technology is outdated, right? And quite

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often, you know, we go to the gym, we work out our bodies, we

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buy the latest greatest gadget, we have our Fitbit, and yet how

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much work have we done on the inner workings of our mind. And

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this is the process of NLP. You know a big name in the industry

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is Tony Robbins, Mel Robbins, where we can see change in

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minutes and hours rather than in years through the old way, which

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is talk therapy, which is has got lots of benefits. But quite

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often it really means that you have to dig in, get down into

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the muck and work through things. We're NLP we're working

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with the neurology of the mind, knowing that there's many ways

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to interrupt a neurological pathway within your brain. And

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that can happen without pain and quickly

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okay, I'm so we're you're talking about

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reprogramming our, our minds? And did you say you can actually

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do that minutes?

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Oftentimes you can. So what I'm going to put in front

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of the screen is a felt pen that has a cap on it. And so when we

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think about an event in our life that is connected to an emotion,

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so say that the emotions on the one side and on the other and

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this is the neural pathway, so the event occurs in here and if

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it was traumatic, then you know there might be anxiety anger,

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fear whatever that emotion might be. And that also comes with

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physiology. So a certain heart rate, respiration, body

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temperature. And we understand that a lot through things like

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depression, where people actually have their eyes focused

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towards the floor, so they don't see a lot of the room, they may

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take smaller steps, they could shuffle, they have a lower heart

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rate, lower respiration, they speak slower, they walk slower.

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So we understand that this is with every emotion that we feel

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now, it's not just selective. So what we do now with with

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neurolinguistics programming, is we come through the back door,

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and we can change the physiology. So we already know

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that our brain is flushing chemicals for whatever we're,

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we're focused on. So our thoughts create physiology,

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which is flushed from chemicals within our brain, and move

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through our body through our bloodstream. When they're

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negative, that, you know, we can just say it's on the side of

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fear, when you want to call it anxiety, whatever you want to

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call it, it's usually a negative emotion. On the positive side,

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it can be love, it can be gratitude, it can be many, many

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things. But really, it's either positive or negative, the body

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is simple that way. So what we want to do is we want to switch

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this physiology to something that is not the complete story,

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your brain downloaded it in this complete idea. And if we change

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something, that neuro pathway cannot exist in a changed form,

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because it was created as a complete item. So we go through

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a process, like NLP. And there's other modalities that do the

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same thing. And we can change the physiology either either by

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changing a negative emotion to a positive emotion. So here's how

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you get the science behind the power of gratitude. Or we can

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change the actual physical physiology, heart rate,

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respiration, and body temperature. And it's done in a

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very specific way. So we all know, you know, the kids are

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misbehaving, you send them outside to play, and they're

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happy. But when they come back in the house, they can misbehave

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again, so different. And and, you know, some people will say,

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well, one of the processes do people understand the world

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through the differences that they can see, or through the

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similarities that they recognize, oh, you can see my

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one of my programs through my language that I use, it shows up

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every single time, and this is part of the work that I do. But,

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you know, we do it in a very specific way. So we occupy a lot

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of brain power. So if you want to think like your computer and

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say, Okay, we're dominating the RAM, you're running Adobe

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software, and Facebook at the same time, and your computer

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can't do very much else, right. So the the brain can be said to,

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you know, be dominated as well, whether we're focusing on

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something negative within our lives. And so we fail to see the

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joy, we fail to find the the outlook that we want in life,

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and therefore, our entire world kind of looks a bit dark, where

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we change our thought to something more directed, while

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we're doing a line dance, let's say we're changing the heart

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rate, respiration and body temperature while refocusing the

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mind away from the problem. And those two things together.

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simplistically, are the way that we can allow that neural pathway

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to collapse. And it kind of shows up like a blank mind in

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your page, you logically reasonably intellectually know

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that this event existed, but it's no longer polarized with

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that negative emotion. So then you're able to move forward in

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life and find, you know, the resources that you learned

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through a difficult situation and access.

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There's so much there to unpack, and I want to

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dive into it. First, though, I think this is a nice little

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transition to share your personal story that led you to

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pursue the path is this profession that you are now on?

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Do you want to can you share that with us?

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Sure, absolutely. When I was 27, I was on a plane

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crash. The small plane that I was a passenger passenger in

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crash and flipped in water, and it was immediately submerged in

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water and I began to drown. So that back a little bit, imagine

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a perfect sunny day when everything's okay. And then life

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happens. The pilot had said he wanted to go and do a skip and

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go off the river below. And that meant that he was going to go

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down just like skipping a stone off the surface of some

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flatwater he was at a skip the pontoons across the river, and

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then scooped back up into the sky. But human failure he had

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left the landing gear down. So when that plane made contact

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with the water, it slipped from nose to tail. And it flipped

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really, really fast. Though our brain functions at a super high

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level faster than a rocket going to the moon, my my brain

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registered that the pilot was going under, he was sitting in

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front of me, and I went to take a breath of air, and my mouth

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filled with water. Oh, when I was upside down, the plane was

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full of water. My mouth was full of water, it was dark, it was

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black, it was confusing, gravity was pulling me in the wrong

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direction, there were things in the cabin that were bouncing

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against my body, the plane was spinning in the current. And

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traveling down the river at it at you know, a pretty good

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speed, it was all very confusing. And the first thing I

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tried to do was push. What do you try to push with my feet on

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the floor of the cabin, I tried to just like push my body out,

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you can imagine just, you know, pushing against something and

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then noticing that you're, you're so constrained because

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you've got a three point harness that is just holding you firm to

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that seat. And I had because it was an amphibious small plane,

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we were also wearing life jackets. So all of those cords,

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in the commotion of the flip, and the water had wrapped around

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the three point harness and everything was tangled, and I

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couldn't find the release. You know, you always hear the

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airline stewardess saying, take the buckle. But at that time,

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you have to find it right. So you can, you know, look around

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your waist and try to find that bulk of where that that class

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was, and I just couldn't find it. And within a short time, you

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can imagine how long you can hold your breath, I began to

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feel that tingling sensation in my arms and in my legs. And I'd

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been a lifeguard for many years. So I knew that sensation meant

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that I was running short on oxygen, and that I needed to get

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out of the plane. But what was going through my brain was I

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can't get out, I can't get out, I can't find the three point

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harness. And at that point, my, my body actually, if you want to

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philosophically say separated from itself, because I remember

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watching a picture of myself upside down and I had really

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long hair at the time, you know what it looks like when it's

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floating in the water, right. And it's, so I have this image

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of myself upside down in this plane with this hair just moving

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through the the current. And it was rather peaceful where I was,

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I wasn't concerned with this person's welfare, I was more

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just an observer at this point.

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And at this point, my eye, my mind began to flash my life in

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front of my eyes. So you know, I'd heard at some point before

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this, or maybe after this, that it doesn't happen. And I'm, I've

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talked to many people who've had near death experiences, and it

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happened to all of them. So I'm not sure when or why the

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difference is. But I had this amazing movie from my life from

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the moment of my birth all the way through my life. And and

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then it gave me a preview of what would happen if I were to

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die. And that was a gift of watching the RCMP officers or

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local police force, walking through my parents front yard

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and up their big red brick steps and knocking on that old door.

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And I could see my parents answering the door. I didn't

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hear their conversation. But I watched the conversation unfold

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through their expressions changing. And that was first

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confusion, to acknowledgement. And then it turned into full

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blown blown grief. And my mum collapsed to the floor, She

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covered her hands over her head. And she screamed, and she

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screamed really loud inside my head just in this vision that I

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was having. But that was enough. It shocked me it snapped me back

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into my reality that I was upside down drowning in a plane

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that crashed and overturned in water. And I made a choice right

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then in there that this was not going to be my story. I was

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getting out of the plane. And I was getting out of it now. And

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these are very key neuroscience answers which we can go into

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later. But what happened was a result of me making a very

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specific choice in a very specific way is all of those

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images that had flash forward in time began to flash in reverse,

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and they went back through. I don't know millions who have How

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many billions of moments in life and then the image is stopped.

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And in front of my mind's eye was a movie that I'd watched,

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didn't know how long ago didn't know the names of the actors the

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what the name of the movie was. But what was showing me in front

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of my mind's eye gave me all the information I needed to escape a

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plane that had crashed and overturned in water. This scene

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I know, was a commander training young pilots how to escape a

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plane that crashed and overturned in water. And I

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followed the script, and I escaped the plane. I always say,

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even in life's most dire circumstances, out of breath,

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out of time, we still have the ability to make choices that can

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change the trajectory of our life. So that's my story. It

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took me a long time, I felt like an Olympian, when I breached the

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surface of the water, was that out of breath, wow, that I did

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climb onto that pontoon, and I threw my arms to the sky and let

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out a huge whoop, into the blackness of the sky, because

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there was nobody on that river. wasn't going to be a 911 call.

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So that that is a

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remarkable story. Adele, thank you so much for

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sharing it. And I can imagine how frightening and traumatic it

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would be, but it sounds like it sounds like you, you kicked into

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gear like you kicked into action. And, yes, it's just

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remarkable. This, you know, being able to see this vision in

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your mind and making this very audible choice. How did you say

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it I made a choice, this is not going to be my story. I love

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those words. And we can use those. Those very words. So many

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of us right now, right?

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Yes, absolutely. We're making choices all day long,

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like that 1000s of choices. You know, in a week, there's better

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time, there's the whole thing, whole science on choice. But,

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you know, when we when we have these significant events in our

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life, and you had said Fear Fear wasn't part of my story wasn't

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part of my picture as very comfortable in the water. And I

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think that was part of many of the, you know, round pegs that

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went into the round holes to successfully you know, the

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outcome, the outcome of my survival. And we often are

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stopped by fear. And when we think of the detriment that fear

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does for us, sure, keep your head your hand away from a hot

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stove. And yet, when we're going to pursue our dreams, or to make

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a choice that really matters in life, it's not always helpful.

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Unless we're talking something that is, you know, walking down

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a back alley in Afghanistan, then of course, fear is a

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powerful, and, you know, helpful tool, but not every day in the

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lives that we lead. Yeah,

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absolutely. You know, it's interesting. I shared

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this in another episode recently about realizing my own self

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limiting beliefs on on stuff around fear. So as you know, I

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did this kayaking trip this summer. And just a year ago, I

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had said that I would never ever, ever, ever, ever get into

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a single seat, kayak and paddle on my own on it on on a trip.

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And then it was on this trip that I realized, here I am, you

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know, we'd already gone 300 kilometers by this time, you

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know, it was like day 20 something in this trip. And I'm

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like, wow, you know, I'm doing this. And what was what was

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really interesting for me, actually, in the moment, not not

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so much that wow, I'm here I am. Although that was, that was

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really incredible. It was more than realization that, wow, I

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told myself a year ago that I would I could never do this. I

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didn't I just didn't even I didn't believe I could do

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something like like this. And I started to wonder, well, what

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else am I telling myself I'm not capable of. And I think

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sometimes we say things and we act in a way and we don't even

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realize the language we're using. That is putting the lid

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on our potential. And I feel like that's what I'm hearing you

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talk about, am I is that what you do is to help lift the lid

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off and identify the words and the language and the beliefs so

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we can see and feel and believe that potential in ourselves

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in a lot of ways, yes. And then take it a step further

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and actually changed the programming. Because we have

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these mechanisms, mechanisms inside our head that we've used

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over and over and over and you know, people always say, Well,

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what happens if it doesn't work? Well, what happens with debts?

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You know, what happens if, if it goes like to the moon? So we've

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stopped ourselves from the fear. No, maybe we have a nine to five

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job that pays the bills. And you know, the paycheck comes into

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the bank account every two weeks. And it does something,

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but maybe it doesn't fill our heart or for whatever reason,

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you want to go out on your own or make a change. And they like,

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but what happens if it doesn't work? Nicely? Well, what happens

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if it does? Even even better? What if it's wilder than your

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you could ever imagine? And go there and see how that changes

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the story. But it is in the words, you know, earlier today,

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so I think I'll try to do something, just say just remove

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the word try. Repeat that same sentence without the word try.

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And it's powerful.

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So interesting, it's awareness, isn't it, you

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have to be aware of that, that language, constantly being aware

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of it, I think you know, that I am, I teach people how to tap

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into their inner wisdom so they can find that clarity about who

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they choose to be, and the life they choose to have. And I

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really believe when you do that, successfully, you unleash a

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great joy, a big obstacle that I believe many people face in

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creating that life and creating that person that they want to

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believe or be is that their belief, their belief in

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themselves, that they can be that piece, that person and they

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can have that life that they really want.

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And so how do you really get

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past those self limiting beliefs? How do you do

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that, that reprogramming to that changes some of those beliefs

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that are so deeply ingrained? You know, like, I, I had the

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belief for a very, very, very long time that I wasn't smart

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enough. And you know, like, I can point fingers, you know, my

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father was very, he would, he would talk down to me and tell

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me I was stupid, and just all sorts of stuff. And, and he and

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I share that not to, you know, evoke any pity because I don't I

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believe I am who I am today largely because of my parents

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and I love who I am. I am today. However, it did take a long time

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for me to come around believe that. Yeah, you know, I need to

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you are smart, you're really smart. And you've got a lot to

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offer. I wish I could have come to that conclusion a lot sooner.

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So and I know there are other people out there like me that

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don't believe that they are, are enough whether there's they feel

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like they're not smart enough, talented enough, capable enough

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good looking enough, whatever enough. There's this lack of

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belief in their enoughness which I feel like is almost known

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epidemic in itself. How do we get past that? How can you have

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any tips that we you can share with us that will help?

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Share? Yeah, so our brains develop similar to we we

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develop physically, right? It's easy to see, we develop

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physically, we, you know, we go from an infant to a little child

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that begins to sit up and then stands and then takes that first

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step. So we watch the development, you know, the child

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says their first word, and then they they tell a lie. And we're

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like, Yay, they told a lie. It's a psychological development. But

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throughout this, if we look at someone like Maslow's hierarchy

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of needs, safety, survival securities in the first two

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years love and belonging, meaning that we live within a

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tribe that usually looks like us, and talks like us. And

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that's, that's what we know. And then as teenagers, we start to

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move out into the world. And this is when our self esteem and

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self worth begin to develop. We expand our horizons, we maybe

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look at different religions, we maybe have a friend that doesn't

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have the same skin tone as us. And this allows us to expand our

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understanding. But within this time, our brain is still

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underdeveloped adult at the age about 25 has a fully functioning

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neocortex. And before that, it's in the developmental stage. So I

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always use my younger self here. This is Charlotte.

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A little a little doll that's maybe five inches

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tall with with orange hair.

Unknown:

Yeah, it's a I've had her since I was probably two.

Unknown:

But Charlotte isn't less intelligent. She's just younger.

Unknown:

So she hasn't got the life experience to process events

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that are happening in her life. And understanding. We talked you

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talked about a metaphysical word called ontology Who am I going

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to be as I move through life? And so there's a few moving

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parts here that I'd like to pull together and the obstacle of

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course, so when Charlotte is You know, coming up through through

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life, and somebody says something mean to her that makes

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her feel bad about herself, that becomes a neural pathway within

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her brain, and neural, like neural pathways and memories, if

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we want to call them that are filed according to emotion. So

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imagine going into a library inside your mind. And the first

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row is all fear, I was afraid I got, you know, I didn't know how

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to do this, this frightened me. The next one is anxiety. The

Unknown:

next one is, whatever it might be, and where is love and where

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is a sense of well being and security and all of that, it

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could be farther down the line. So the emotions that are that

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are activated more often are going to be front and center in

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this person psychology. So when we say Who do I want to be?

Unknown:

Well, all of those memories are in there, defined by someone

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else who might have said something cruel. So if it's

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defined by I'm not good enough? Or, you know, I don't know

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enough, I'm not smart, I'm not pretty whatever we want to say,

Unknown:

then those emotions are there. And that's what's running these

Unknown:

programs. And it's almost Well, how would I explain? You know, I

Unknown:

always say, if you haven't used it in a while, it's like a cow

Unknown:

trail, you use it more often it becomes, you know, a dirt road.

Unknown:

And if you use it all the time, it's a four lane highway with

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lights, you can go really, really fast, the brain will tell

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you will identify which brain you're in, by how fast the

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answer came. So became really fast, that subconscious, and

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you're probably reacting versus the thoughtful, you know,

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literary, reasonable, rational brain, latest, greatest

Unknown:

invention of mankind, but it's also the slow thinker is not in

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play. And this is where we learn things. So there's different

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ways for us to overcome things like a negative emotion. First

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thing is awareness. Awareness is the gate way to neuroplasticity.

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So once we have an awareness that there's something here that

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I want to attend to, we have 42 days of that sitting in our

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neocortex, where we can reason and rationalize with it. And

Unknown:

this is a little bit of the slow way of doing things. What I

Unknown:

would do is I say, Oh, I have a problem. Let's take care of it,

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let's take care of it with the latest technology. But getting

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back to here's, you know, someone who has a certain belief

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in themselves that they don't have the knowledge or the

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capacity to do something. And then you have the ability to be

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who you want to be through choice through your education

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for what you focus on, where your heart resides, where your

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values lie. And so that that word is ontology. So who am I

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going to be as I move through life, and when we choose

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something greater than ourselves, then that in itself

Unknown:

has its own energy. So for example, if you look at

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kinesiology, you know, if you follow David R Hawkins power

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versus force, IPI, and he's got tons of books, we know that

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integrity is is the tipping point in human behavior, where

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it becomes positive, and you start generating goodwill coming

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your way, where the lower emotions like anger, resentment,

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revenge, all of those, you know, apathy, grief, can, can be in

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the negative side. And then you're also attracting that

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which, you know, you don't want to stay there for long. So as we

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move our and ontological beingness forward, I always say

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go Levin above just five 540 Then you're getting into some

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significant well being, and you're able to generate more.

Unknown:

And when we talk about that we often talk about it being

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externalized. Like I'm going to talk to them with love. I'm

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going to be loving to them, but what about me?

Unknown:

Right? If you have if you've flown probably not in the last

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two years, but if you've flown it's like put your own mask on

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first. Right? So as women we are givers and nurturers and we

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often given give until it hurts and then you see the collapse

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state of someone who has been overtaxed and just feels a bit

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rundown. So, you know, there is some old science and I forget

Unknown:

who actually quoted this one, which is we set the bar. We set

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the bar how we treat ourselves is how other people will think

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treat us. So if we feel like a doormat self responsibility,

Unknown:

right? When's the last time that you cared for yourself, when's

Unknown:

the last time that you loved yourself. And when we are in

Unknown:

that state, then we do see obstacles rise up. But I always

Unknown:

say if you know where you're going doesn't matter what's

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between point A and point B, if you have your eye on the focus,

Unknown:

if you know you're going to paddle to desolation, sound,

Unknown:

doesn't matter how big the waves are in between, you are on a

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mission. And that is your goal. And so this is where the mind

Unknown:

science and just understanding the power in how we think can

Unknown:

change the outcome. Because if you thought about, you know,

Unknown:

going through Agyemang, mon channel by say it right, big

Unknown:

waves, big obstacles, right? And you could say, Okay, let me

Unknown:

think about this for a minute. But did it stop me? Know, the

Unknown:

obstacle is the way Ryan Holiday great book. That book, Ryan

Unknown:

Holiday, it's called the app the obstacle is the way Oh, okay.

Unknown:

Yeah, so these are little secrets within our mind, you

Unknown:

know, we, we put up these roadblocks for our own greatness

Unknown:

for our goals that we have for us. And then we tell ourselves

Unknown:

10 ways why it cannot be done. When really the obstacle is the

Unknown:

way and some of that is mindset. And some of that is, you know,

Unknown:

resilience. And, you know, maybe maybe it's reaching out and

Unknown:

having some help, there's lots of ways to clear those

Unknown:

obstacles.

Anita Adams:

So you said, um, go love and above. So you're

Anita Adams:

talking about, again, making an active choice to choose love

Anita Adams:

over fear and come from operating from that place is

Anita Adams:

that the my understand is right understanding of what you're

Anita Adams:

saying?

Unknown:

Yeah, if you if you consider, you know, our

Unknown:

physiology. simplistically, you could say love is on one side

Unknown:

and fears on the other. Well, I

Anita Adams:

100% only have those two choices. Really? Yeah.

Unknown:

vibrates at a very high level. Yeah, like, there's a lot

Unknown:

that comes inside. So if you've done your core values, which not

Unknown:

too many people on the planet have, I think it's like two or

Unknown:

3%. But you see that, you know, integrity sits inside a love

Unknown:

family sits inside a love, there's lots of things. Well,

Unknown:

for individuals, it depends what your core values are for, for

Unknown:

me, all the things that I love, sit inside of love. So I can

Unknown:

operate, or be conscious of, of maintaining my life giving and

Unknown:

receiving through love. And that way, I know that I'm taken care

Unknown:

of. And that whoever I'm working with has, you know, got that

Unknown:

integrity that I'm going to treat them like somebody that I

Unknown:

love. offer my services in that way. So this is the idea of who

Unknown:

am I going to be who am I going to be as I move through life,

Anita Adams:

I'm really interested in that statistic

Anita Adams:

that 2% of the population really know and have taken time to

Anita Adams:

identify their core values. And that sounds like that's key to

Anita Adams:

me and I and I know from my own personal experiences and how

Anita Adams:

wrong I've gone and how damaging it my choices were not only to

Anita Adams:

me, but to my family, because I wasn't clear about my core

Anita Adams:

values. And when you do get clear on that, you can make

Anita Adams:

choices from that, that highest self right from that place of

Unknown:

Well, the thing about core values as you feel it,

Unknown:

though, you know, when you get that feeling inside your gut

Unknown:

where this just, you know, you can call it intuition, you can

Unknown:

call it lots of different names, core values is one of those

Unknown:

things that is that true north, when you're on target, when

Unknown:

you're living within your values, you feel calm about it.

Unknown:

There's nothing that makes you feel like icky. But when you're

Unknown:

outside of your core values, you kind of know, geez, I wish I

Unknown:

wouldn't have done that. That's not me. Right? It's like you can

Unknown:

describe it as your personality in a lot of cases.

Anita Adams:

Yeah. And, and going back to what you were

Anita Adams:

saying earlier about awareness again, you know, it's, we can be

Anita Adams:

operating on a certain level and aware really unaware of what our

Anita Adams:

core values are unless we take the time to know ourselves to

Anita Adams:

understand ourselves.

Unknown:

Right? I would say it's, it's a very integral part

Unknown:

of self awareness. Understand what's going on inside Mind. I

Unknown:

mean, there's so many there's, you know, lots to understand

Unknown:

inside the mind the meta models, the meta programs. But there's

Unknown:

certain words to like if we get into the AI AMS. That's a

Unknown:

definite, you know, I claim it. I am and then we say something,

Unknown:

well, if what you're saying is not great, well, the I ams are

Unknown:

the belief systems, I am such and such, okay? And this is

Unknown:

where labels become detrimental, they could. This is where people

Unknown:

can have issues with identity when they retire. As I am an

Unknown:

executive, I am a police officer, I am dedicated up. So

Unknown:

when we claim it with the I ams we want to make sure that we're

Unknown:

claiming it for the right reasons. You know, when we self

Unknown:

identify, then we own it, and people do it with diseases too.

Unknown:

You're not that disease? How do you what do you mean? Well, I'm

Unknown:

a cancer survivor. Ah, I'm a widow. I'm a whatever, right? It

Unknown:

comes with some built in stuff, right? Rather than just saying,

Unknown:

I am Adele.

Unknown:

This is who I am. At the core of my being I am nothing, I am not

Unknown:

a label.

Anita Adams:

And then the the infinite possibilities that can

Anita Adams:

come from that, you know, I am a Nita and what is possible is so

Anita Adams:

much.

Unknown:

Yeah, we stand in our own power, right, there's just

Unknown:

some really key elements to being okay with that. And I

Unknown:

always say, you know, coming from a homeopath background, so

Unknown:

this gave me insight into case taking and, and reading the

Unknown:

threads within the language. You know, people are busy in their

Unknown:

life, but you've probably had a circumstance where you're in an

Unknown:

office or your wherever and you say, Hey, how are you and they

Unknown:

say, Hey, I'm fine. And I'm telling you, nobody's fine. It's

Unknown:

very, very rare that people are fine, they're fine in moments.

Unknown:

But for the most part, they've got stuff happening in their

Unknown:

lives, that can be painful. And yet, we don't really have time

Unknown:

to hear that. And so people say I'm fine, or they hide it. But

Unknown:

there's a lot of people that suffer from low self esteem and

Unknown:

so low self worth, and it is limiting how much joy and

Unknown:

satisfaction and potentially their dreams in their life. So

Unknown:

the I'm fine needs to be opened up. And then we talk about

Unknown:

mental awareness. You know, once a once a week, once a year kind

Unknown:

of thing, one week, a year, and people become a little bit more

Unknown:

aware that things are happening internally. But as human beings,

Unknown:

I think we're vulnerable to the life experience, and why not

Unknown:

change the story? Why if you're not happy, why continue? And I'm

Unknown:

not saying change your life, you know, wherever you go, there you

Unknown:

are. So you know, we get the midnight midlife crisis, which

Unknown:

is something that we talk about it we we hear people reach a

Unknown:

certain age and they buy a sports car, change professions,

Unknown:

change the location and where they live, buy a bigger house.

Unknown:

And wherever you go, there you are, you're still back in your

Unknown:

own dissatisfaction. Rather, consider that your brain is

Unknown:

sending you signals that it's time for you to to evolve.

Unknown:

Evolution of your mind.

Anita Adams:

Yeah, let's break that down a little bit. How

Anita Adams:

okay, what what do you listen to that tells you that guide you

Anita Adams:

like I talked about inner wisdom and I'm listening to my heart?

Anita Adams:

What? What is that for you? Is it the same? Is it inner wisdom?

Anita Adams:

Is it something else?

Unknown:

Well, I, I listened to Charlotte for as few little

Unknown:

little as I can. So being aware that Charlotte is not me, this

Unknown:

could be my younger self. This could be somebody that gave you

Unknown:

know, gave me some bad information when I was younger

Unknown:

and didn't know how to process it. So the voice inside the head

Unknown:

is not you know, learning how to hash that voice.

Anita Adams:

Right? The inner critic or the

Unknown:

inner critic. Sure, call it like the nasty DJ or

Unknown:

something like that, you know, that's running these records

Unknown:

repeatedly, right? And they're really worn out and it's just

Unknown:

they have to go, but awareness that the voice is coming up. And

Unknown:

a really good way to quiet the voice is to acknowledge it.

Unknown:

That's why she has a name. So then I externalize the voice.

Unknown:

The voice is not mine. It's Charlotte's voice. And Charlotte

Unknown:

is afraid of something and I'm just gonna say Charlotte. I've

Unknown:

got this Thanks. Thanks for sending me a warning. But it's

Unknown:

okay.

Anita Adams:

Right? Because sure, that really just wants to

Anita Adams:

protect you. She's not coming at it from any evil intent. It's

Anita Adams:

simply she wants to protect you, she's afraid.

Unknown:

And if it's a self limiting belief, then it can be

Unknown:

more destructive. Right? Yeah. And then just a simple, you

Unknown:

know, the childish voice inside your head that just wants to

Unknown:

make sure I mean, there are different parts of us that are

Unknown:

being fired up, like with fear, you know, it's very primal,

Unknown:

primal energy within our systems. But there was something

Unknown:

else that you asked me about, and I'm so

Anita Adams:

we're, we're identifying the process of

Anita Adams:

tapping into that the inner wisdom. So we first we identify

Anita Adams:

the the inner critic, or the nasty DJ. And, and just call,

Anita Adams:

not call them out. But say, I hear you, I see you, I

Anita Adams:

understand your fear. And it's okay, I've got this. So that's

Anita Adams:

the first step, Greg. And then from there, where do you go?

Unknown:

Well, I go to the words that I used, I break them down.

Unknown:

So if it's a negative word, I flip it to a positive word. If

Unknown:

it's not, if it's a force word versus a Power Word, then I flip

Unknown:

it to a Power Word. There's certain words that don't work

Unknown:

within the brain, the don'ts, the cants, the tries, your brain

Unknown:

doesn't know what to do with it, because it doesn't have a

Unknown:

direction.

Anita Adams:

Hmm, don't want don't can't, and try. Yeah, I'll

Anita Adams:

be late. Yeah,

Unknown:

I can't rain lot. This loses the if you say Do not be

Unknown:

late. It's different. But the don't they don't your brain

Unknown:

doesn't quite know what to do with that. I don't know why. But

Unknown:

it said that the brain drops the apostrophe T and it becomes do

Unknown:

that. So for example, if you're talking about communication with

Unknown:

teens, and you say don't be late, well, their brain just

Unknown:

dropped that and made it a doo,

Anita Adams:

doo be late. That explains so much. Yeah.

Unknown:

So you can turn things around and say, Well, I don't

Unknown:

have to tell you what time to be home, because you already know.

Unknown:

And then it becomes self assessments.

Anita Adams:

I was told that no is a word we should keep out of

Anita Adams:

our vocabulary as well. Because it's a negative? Could we should

Anita Adams:

we turn that into you already understand, it feels a little

Anita Adams:

bit forced doing that, truthfully. But

Unknown:

there's certain phrases that drop resistance of the

Unknown:

neocortex. So people want their own autonomy, this brain here is

Unknown:

always you know, wanting a better way of doing things,

Unknown:

finding a better way of doing things. So it questions

Unknown:

everything. There's certain phrases that drop resistance. So

Unknown:

I would say, if you want to talk to your team, talk to their

Unknown:

subconscious brain, don't go through the neocortex. The what

Unknown:

one of the phrases you could say was, well, I don't really have

Unknown:

to tell you that because you already know. So then the brain

Unknown:

feels relaxed, because oh, I don't have to really listen to

Unknown:

this because I already know it. But the subconscious brain is

Unknown:

downloading every single thing that it's ever seen, smelled,

Unknown:

tasted, heard or felt emotionally and kinesthetically.

Unknown:

So the message is going in, regardless of what your if your

Unknown:

brain is, your teens brain is being tuned out. The ears never

Unknown:

sleep, and you know that as a mother. Everything's going in,

Unknown:

yes. But this back to this awareness piece. Recognizing

Unknown:

that the words that you use actually mean something inside

Unknown:

the brain, like the I can't, if I would have said I can't get

Unknown:

out of the plane, there is absolutely no way that my brain

Unknown:

would have source the information that I needed.

Unknown:

Because I told my brain that it couldn't be done, though I've

Unknown:

shut off the wisdom to that brain, right? Where if I asked

Unknown:

specifically so in the now a concise, I would say talk to

Unknown:

your subconscious brain, like you would talk to a two year old

Unknown:

and then you'll get the magic. So I'm getting out of the plane

Unknown:

and getting out of it now. So present tense, very direct and

Unknown:

concise. So this is where the clarity of what you were asking

Unknown:

for. Really Matters. Yeah, we hear these old sayings Be

Unknown:

careful what you're asking for. Yeah. Because he might just get

Unknown:

it

Anita Adams:

might just get it got to be thoughtful. So this

Anita Adams:

makes me think about some I've been sharing some posts on my

Anita Adams:

social media about manifesting and yeah, to the power of asking

Anita Adams:

our putting it out to the universe with clarity. And

Anita Adams:

again, making it a choice not a want. You know, like I talked

Anita Adams:

about wanting If we do, we need to get clear about what it is

Anita Adams:

that we want. And then once we're clear, and we and we look

Anita Adams:

inward, and we're asking and listening and getting clear

Anita Adams:

about what it is that we want, then we need to choose it. We

Anita Adams:

need to use our language and be really thoughtful about the

Anita Adams:

language we're using to choose what we want to create in our

Anita Adams:

lives. I feel like I'm hearing the same thing from you.

Unknown:

Yeah, so manifesting is more than an affirmation, like

Unknown:

true manifesting, is that we are attracting like a magnet,

Unknown:

something towards us. So we have to be in alignment with what we

Unknown:

are. And they always say, Well, think about it, like you've

Unknown:

already got it. Okay, so that's one thing, but you have to

Unknown:

believe it. Yeah, they have to believe that it's possible. It

Unknown:

needs to be current in the current. So you you talk in,

Unknown:

it's happening now. Not that it's happening at some time in

Unknown:

the future, because that's when it'll happen them. So we don't

Unknown:

want it like they always say, when you're searching for

Unknown:

happiness, well, when do you want to have it today, or next

Unknown:

week, or, you know, when I finish when the kids are grown,

Unknown:

then I will, when I finish university, then when I do this,

Unknown:

then when I get on vacation, then, you know, we put off

Unknown:

things until the future. So the clarity of what we want needs to

Unknown:

be aligned with who we are. So our ontology, the conciseness,

Unknown:

of how we ask it needs to be present day, in the present. Now

Unknown:

we need to have the belief system that it exists for us

Unknown:

already. And these are, these are really key. So I'll give you

Unknown:

an example. Someone is on a diet, till the end of time there

Unknown:

will be diets. People want to lose weight, we'll find out why

Unknown:

they want to lose weight. For starters, the neocortex is

Unknown:

great, has a lot of willpower until you're Hungry, Angry,

Unknown:

Lonely or Tired. So how often does that happen in the day, and

Unknown:

then willpower fails, and your subconscious brain comes into

Unknown:

effect? And what happens if your subconscious brain has a belief

Unknown:

system that you're fat? I'm going to say that you're going

Unknown:

to eat the Twinkie. Hmm, how hard you want to lose weight, if

Unknown:

you believe in your heart of hearts, that you're fat. And the

Unknown:

diet at some point will most likely fail. So these are the

Unknown:

key elements to you know, being aligned with what you want. If

Unknown:

you think it's possible, then you have to also believe that

Unknown:

it's possible. And you have to believe that it's possible now.

Unknown:

Yeah, not someday. Yeah. And where it shows up, it shows up

Unknown:

in the language. So for example, someone comes into an office

Unknown:

building, and their friend says, You look great today. And she

Unknown:

said, I changed three times I thought I was fat. Right? Bingo,

Unknown:

there's the belief system coming through. So this person, no

Unknown:

matter how hard they try, the primary tries are wishy washy,

Unknown:

going to be extremely difficult for this person to follow

Unknown:

through on a diet. So it begins in the mind the story, nothing

Unknown:

would would need to be adapted inside the mind, to allow that

Unknown:

belief system to be put to rest with a more empowering desire.

Unknown:

And then, you know, you can go on and manifest that. So you

Unknown:

know, go back and do some deep thinking on what you're going to

Unknown:

manifest and see where your roadblocks inside the mind

Unknown:

exist. And if there's any questioning, like, Oh, that's

Unknown:

too big. Oh, that's why me, you know, then there's some work

Unknown:

that has to be done. So that that manifestation can happen.

Anita Adams:

And is is the work just asking yourself, Why? Why

Anita Adams:

do I feel this way? And why do I want this? Why? Where does this

Anita Adams:

belief come from? Is that part of the process and in

Anita Adams:

understanding

Unknown:

as a coach, you know, we've you've probably heard the

Unknown:

seven layers of why. So the first it

Anita Adams:

refresh my memory?

Unknown:

Yeah. So yeah, I'll use the same example because it's an

Unknown:

easy target. You want to lose weight. Why? Because it'll make

Unknown:

me feel better. That makes you feel better. In what way? Why is

Unknown:

that important to you? Well, if I feel better, maybe I might

Unknown:

feel happier inside. Oh, and if you feel happier inside, what's

Unknown:

that going to do for you? Well, if I'm happier inside maybe I'll

Unknown:

have a better relationship with my partner. And if you have a

Unknown:

better relationship with your partner, what will that do for

Unknown:

you? Well, maybe I won't feel so lonely. Not about losing weight.

Anita Adams:

It's about not wanting to when we,

Unknown:

when we deal with, when we work on the surface, you

Unknown:

know, that's, we're sweeping, washing the floor without water.

Unknown:

You imagine a big pail of water, and you're gonna throw it on the

Unknown:

floor, and think your floor is clean. That's the results of

Unknown:

working on the surface. Right, we might want to get get into

Unknown:

the dirtiness at least have a mop or have a scrub and put a

Unknown:

little bit of soap in the water. And, and get in there. And it

Unknown:

doesn't have to be hard. So you know, the way I'm saying it, you

Unknown:

know, using that example, might seem that oh, this is going to

Unknown:

be painful. And it really isn't. What it is, is it's joyful. I

Unknown:

just did a little exercise with one of my new clients yesterday.

Unknown:

And it's one that I do quite easily because it only takes a

Unknown:

few minutes. And I could do as long as nobody's driving, I'm

Unknown:

moving the vehicle because No, we changed we alter our

Unknown:

Brainwave. Yeah. But you know, if you want to remove a food

Unknown:

group from your diet, you can do it quite easily. And it doesn't

Unknown:

have to be hard. And then I, you know, I asked them to do a

Unknown:

follow up. And this, this woman was at an event and somebody

Unknown:

offered her a doughnut, which was her food group that she

Unknown:

asked to remove. And she was like, it was so interesting. She

Unknown:

said, I just I never even thought about taking it at all.

Unknown:

I just had to tell you, it was just like, it wasn't even in my

Unknown:

mind that I would ever take a doughnut. And this is the

Unknown:

simplicity of reworking those neural pathways. We just change

Unknown:

it so the brain makes a different choice.

Anita Adams:

Can you walk us through that little exercise

Anita Adams:

that you did with your? Okay, sure.

Unknown:

So I'll say the little disclaimer, never, never

Unknown:

listened to these instructions or an NLP session or anything

Unknown:

like that when you're driving, or operating a moving vehicle

Unknown:

because we're actually changing the brainwave that we're in. So

Unknown:

I would set set up a state of relaxation. So usually that can

Unknown:

be done by drawing attention towards our breath. So we just

Unknown:

noticed what it feels like to breathe and you can have your

Unknown:

eyes opened or close your choice. And simply draw the air

Unknown:

deep in through your nostrils. You just feel the volume of that

Unknown:

move down your esophagus and into your chest. And then

Unknown:

naturally your chest expands and relaxed. But if you were to

Unknown:

watch that oxygen move in through your body, you would

Unknown:

notice that it goes from your lungs, into your heart into your

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arteries, and flows down all of your extremities, your lower

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intestine. And from there it flows out into little

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capillaries that reach every cell of your body. Imagine this

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pulsing this natural energy that we receive and let go of 1000s

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of times a day. You imagine now as you pull the air in through

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your nose, it moves all the way down through your body through

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your throat, your chest cavity, reproductive organs, pelvis,

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vice, knees, ankles, feet. And this time, we're gonna allow it

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to flow out through the soles of our feet. It's watch that

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visual. As the air moves down your body, flowing out through

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your feet, the soles of your feet and then it just naturally

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rises back up again, passing up on the outside of your body and

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coming back in through your crown. And now watch us that air

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circulates becoming very bright and light. Knowing your body

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with this bright white light bringing in a sense of calm and

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peace as it expands outward, through every cell of your body,

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through your skin and outward. Like a protective layer. You and

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the outside world. Now I'd like you to imagine pulling your

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focus into your mind. Something a food item that's not serving

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you. Maybe if the piece of junk food, whatever it might be, you

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would like to remove it from your diet. And I'd like you to

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ask your conscious brain if it's willing to give up this item,

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and if it is simply nod.

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Great, thank you. And now we'd like to ask your subconscious

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brain knowing that nothing will be lost, this is for your

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highest good. Is it also willing to give up this food item?

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This is inside our mind, we can do whatever we want. So I'd like

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to take your right hand and reach inside your thoughts, and

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pull that food item out in habit in the palm of your right hand.

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So you can really see it, feel it, feel the texture, you can

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smell the odor. Maybe it's crunchy, maybe it's soft, like a

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marshmallow. Maybe it's hard and crusty? Because it leaves a

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residue on your fingers as you hold it. How big is it? Could

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you take your index finger and draw the perimeter? Give it

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three dimensional? Or is it flat? Is it sugary? Or is it

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sour? Is it crunchy? Or is it soft? If you were to put it up

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to your nose, what did it smell? Like? If you were to take your

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time and just run your tongue over it, what does it taste?

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Like? Maybe your taste buds are engaging? What does it do inside

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your body with your emotions? Does it create happiness? What

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is that? Anxiety? Guilt? know everything about this food item?

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The weight of it the texture, the odor of light move through

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it? Does it reflect or is a dance wallet. And when you have

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it fully in your mind, simply nod your head I'd like you to

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imagine a tic tac toe board but a foot in front of your face.

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two horizontal lines with equal vertical lines crossing in the

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middle. Can you picture that now? Okay, I'd like you to put

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that food item into one of the squares of the tic tac toe

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board. Not when it's done. Great. Now reach inside your

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mind for something that you would never put in your mouth.

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Maybe it's those diapers that you changed as a young mother.

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Maybe it's the green slugs that you find in the garden on a wet

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moist day. Maybe it's something else, something that you would

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never put in your mouth. And I'd like you to find that item. Now.

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In with your other hand, I'd like you to reach inside your

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mind and pull it out and put it into the palm of your other

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hand. So now you have this item in your hand. You can see what

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it feels like whether it's sticky, moist, dry. It dents if

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you squeeze it like a marshmallow or is it tinny?

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Because it squish? Is it hot? Is it cold? What odor does it have?

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Hold it up to your nose right now and take a really good way.

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Would you imagine letting your tongue come out of your mouth?

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And licking at how long is it? How high is it? How wide three

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dimensional or flat? What color, what shape, what odor, what

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taste, if they're a sound that comes out of a vibration or a

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beat. They're an emotion that rises up no heavy when you know

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it, and it's very beingness and we know nod your head and then

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place it into a different square in the tic tac toe board.

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Possibly there's residue that's left on your hand that's now

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left on the tic tac toe board. You can wipe that off. And now

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you have the tic tac toe board that has two squares one with

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the food item that you'd like to remove and the other one that

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contains this item that you would never put in your mouth.

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With both hands, I'd like you to reach out and take this item

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that you would never put in your mouth and I'd like you to drag

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it pull it, push it slide it across the tic tac toe board

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onto this food item you like when it's there? I'd like you to

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need it like bread, like dough, like batter so that it's

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completely mixed together, forming its own shape. its own

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color, texture, odor, density everything About It has changed.

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We put it in a blender, so that it could never be separated. You

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could do that now. When it is its own shape, its own color,

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its own texture. Its own smell,

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taste. You can open your eyes. There you go. And now you can

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test yourself. If you were to think of that food item that you

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wanted, that you love to eat, what would you do now? There you

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go.

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Don't want it. Very powerful. Holy smokes. Yuck.

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Yeah. But it works. And it works for a long time. Like

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I, I did mine on the hard cheeses, probably about, I don't

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know, eight or nine years ago, and I have not put one of those

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things in my mouth. And when I first did it, it was so powerful

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that I had to actually turn away from the the munchie aisle in

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the grocery store, I couldn't even bear to walk down the

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aisle. And look at that in case my eyes came in contact with it.

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It was wow, that's very powerful. Yeah, well, I'm

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excited to see how this works for me. So I will I will report

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back.

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Yes, please do spend stuff.

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Very cool. I love this kind of conversation, you

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know, it just feels like so much is within our own power. And I

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get really, really excited about the possibilities, the

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possibilities of what we can create, and do with our lives.

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So thank you for giving us some, some giving me some insights

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into that. And I've got I've got one, one more question that I

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feel have touched on a little bit. And I feel it's so

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important, is the awareness piece. Because, you know, at the

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beginning, before we record it, I was sharing something with

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you. And I was and I use the word try and you flag that, you

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know, I want to try something. And I didn't even realize that

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that is I've heard it before I heard we got to take that word

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out of our, our vocabulary. And yet I I'm still I still

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obviously I used it and it just kind of surprised me. You know,

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so I want to make that shift, I really want to make the shift

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from trying to being

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just remove. They're really like, I'm going to make

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the shift. I'm

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another word that Yes. Okay, so two words I used

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really and trying.

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But if you put it into the present tense and re and

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reset it, just, it's happening now, then that's the key. If you

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say I'm going to do something, it gives your brain an excuse,

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give it away. So when we say that we're doing now it has to

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be in the current tense. And this is really important with

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manifestation but also for your brain to action. So your brain

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has immense power. I don't know the terabyte. Now, I used to

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think it was 1017 terabytes of information between each of our

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ears. Now it's scientifically proven to be I'm talking well

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above that in the hundreds. So we have no idea the immense

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information that is stored between our ears, if we want to

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access that, and have that as our own universal University,

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then how we action it is we put it into today that this is

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happening now. It's not happening next week, if you have

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a vision for your future, so this is the power of

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visualization, then we've put that information into our brain

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by having the visualization and the planning process. So that is

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that is a good thing to do. Because you've you've given the

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brain information today of what tomorrow looks like. Different

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from just saying I'm going to try something so when we when we

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are manifesting or we're moving towards a goal, it's okay to

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have that vision in the future as long as it's you know,

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timely, the put the date and put the time it's going to happen by

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November 12 at 10am Then we can plan for that, but unless the

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information has been downloaded into our brain, the the

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conciseness of that can be waylaid by the language that we

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use, whether it's self limiting beliefs, or things that were

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specific words that the brain let's let's just say They're

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slippery. The try, you're either going to do it or you're not

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going to do it. The can't, is really I don't want to. I'm not

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going to do that. You can say I can't. But either you will or

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you won't. Yeah.

Anita Adams:

I think that my big takeaway with what you're saying

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is, use your language in the now like, even I can't is something

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it seems like that's future. But if you talk about right now,

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what is possible or what you desire, talk about it in the

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present tense. And that will help pull out those words that

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are holding you back. Mm hmm. That's true. My My go

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back to my plane crash if I would have said, I really

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want to get out of the plane soon. There isn't that like,

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write it define it work does it

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now, yeah, I choose this now. Yeah. I love that.

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Adele. Thank you so much. And that's that's a simple thing. We

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can all start doing now. We can do now.

Unknown:

Yeah. And start doing, like, just do it.

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Okay, then.

Unknown:

It's a very powerful thing. Just do it. Right.

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Yes. Do it. Yes. Yeah. Don't start doing it. Just

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do it. Yeah. So

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we're, instead of onset, we're putting it into the

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now it's happening. I am doing it right now.

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I am doing it right now. So interesting. This self

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awareness piece is a work in progress, isn't it? We have to

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constantly be checking in with the language we're using. And

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being aware of that. Thank you so much, Adele, if anybody

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listening wanted to connect with you, or reach out, find more

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about you and your services, how what would be the best way for

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them to do that?

Unknown:

Yes, it's the most powerful word in the English

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language. Yes, I can. Yes, I will. So yes, at Life Coach

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adele.com.

Anita Adams:

Awesome. All right. And of course, we'll put that

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information in the show notes. So I want to thank you from the

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bottom of my heart. I love this conversation. I think you are

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such an amazing human being. And I'm so grateful that I landed on

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your beach this summer on the way up the desolation sound. And

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I will include that little story in the show notes as well. So

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it's meant to be meant to be you and I reconnected so thank you

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to you, my friend. And I do feel like this is also the beginning

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of much more.

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So while I'm very passionate about it, and I'm

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passionate about seeing everybody thrive. So I really

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appreciate being on your podcast today.

Anita Adams:

Awesome. Well, thank you so much. All right.

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All right, joyful. journeyers we'll catch you next time. Thank

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If you are a leader, be it a leader of self or a leader of many, who strives to be a force for good in the world, or if you are someone who is simply uncertain about what you really want and why it matters, then this podcast is for you!
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