Lift the Lid & Embrace Who You Really Are

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joyful journey errs need to Adams here your host of the

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with some storytelling about embracing who you really are.

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of 2022 Thank you, we're shall see 35 I'm delighted you love

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the show. And I so appreciate your review. Alright, my fellow

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joyful journeyers today I have another story to share with you.

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And this one begins on a cold winter night. 12 years ago when

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I finally find the courage to tell my husband who I really am.

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Have you ever kept a secret from someone you love. It took me 23

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years to come clean with my secret 23 years together and I

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finally recognize that I can no longer suppress this part of who

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I am. It's not that I'm lying or pretending to be something I'm

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not. It's more like, I'm not allowing myself the fullest

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expression of who I am. It's like putting a lid on who you

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are because you're afraid that what's going to bubble out is

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going to be too much, you're going to be too much. That was

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my fear that the lid on my Verbling pot was going to come

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off and this messy, undeveloped part of who I am is going to

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splatter everywhere. Like a grade nine science experiment

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gone horribly wrong. And my husband is not going to love it.

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Not gonna love who I really am. So the lid stays firmly on for

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23 years. Are you wondering what I'm hiding from my husband? God,

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well, more like hiding my desire to have God in my life. This was

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a pretty big deal for me sharing this part of who I am with my

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science minded non believer husband felt like it would be

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telling him I think Darwin is a joke, or that I'm a flat earther

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or that I love dancing with underpants on my head. All

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right, that flat earther bit is weird. But all these things

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would evoke the same response. He'd be like, what? Here's the

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thing. I held on to this irrational belief that science

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and spirituality don't mix. I also felt I needed to be more

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like my husband more logical and less woowoo to be his equal.

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Have you ever felt like you have to be more of one thing or less

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of something else? If you have, you'll understand that there

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comes a time when it's harder to hold on to the facade than to

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truly embrace who you are. That time came for me 12 years ago on

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that cold winter night when I finally realized it's time to

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lift the lid. Or wait until Tom my husband is in bed scrolling

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through watch making tutorials on YouTube, a favorite pastime.

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I quietly walk into the bedroom. My heart is pounding. My hands

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are clammy and my throat feels tight. I slide into bed next to

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him. Prop myself up on some pillows and with laser focus. I

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stare out the window is everything all right? Yeah, I

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just I just want to come.

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What? I said I want to have God in my life. Tom I'm so afraid to

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share this with you because I don't want you to judge it or me

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or think that I'm being foolish. I know you don't believe in God.

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And that's all right. I do. I do. And I feel like there's

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something missing for me. I want to explore this. And at the same

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time, I'm really afraid to go down this path because he's

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helped me change me or change us drive a wedge between us. And I

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don't want that. I don't want that. But I want this. Does that

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mean we're going to church on Sunday? Oh my gosh, my husband,

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he just has this way of easing the tension, making me laugh,

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usually making me laugh at myself. I was so afraid to share

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this part of me. I thought if I opened up and lifted the lid, I

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would ruin something that was already really good. This

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opening up doesn't ruin us. Of course. It strengthens us. You

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know what ruins relationships? Yeah, keeping lid on who you

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are. Not only that it robs you of your joy and roads, your love

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of self. That's a pretty huge price to pay, and one you will

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pay for hiding even the smallest piece of who you are. When I

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finally found the courage to lift the lid, I discovered I

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really liked the person who emerged. I would even go as far

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to say that that was the beginning of me deepening my

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love for self. It was the beginning of me being honest

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with myself and others about who I am and what I want. The truth

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is, I've spent way too much of my life caring way too much

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about what other people think and trying to be what others

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want me to be or what I think others want me to be. How

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exhausting, stifling. What about you? Have you been honest with

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yourself and others about who you really are? Have you lifted

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the lid to allow the fullest expression of you to emerge? Or

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is there a part of you that you hide or suppress to please

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others or to fit in the ladder? My hope is that you find the

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courage to lift the lid and to fully embrace every bit of who

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you are. When you do you deepen your respect and love for

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yourself. You strengthen your relationships, and you unleash

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great joy. Sounds awesome, doesn't it? Now, are you

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wondering how exactly do you lift the lid? There's only one

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thing you have to do. And that is get super clear with yourself

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about who exactly is in that pot? Who are you? And what do

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you want? It may surprise you that the vast majority of people

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don't really know the answers to these questions. Why? Because we

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are bombarded with messages from society telling us who we should

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be capitalism at its worst, with corporations feeding us images

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and stories designed to manipulate us into buying their

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products and using their their services. And these corporations

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along with the media and even friends and family are defining

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what happiness and success is supposed to look like. We are

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told who we should be and what we should want. And many of us

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do not give ourselves the space we need to figure that out for

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ourself. We are told to be happy we need to be in a relationship

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and get married. Some of us are even told who to marry. We are

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told what is beautiful, how much we should weigh, how to behave.

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And we are told status, position and financial wealth are the

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pinnacle of success. A list of things we are told that we

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should aspire to be is endless. These are messages that we

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receive from our earliest days. It's a lot of noise. And that

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noise can drown out your soul voice, that higher self that is

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within you, that understands who you really are and what you

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want.

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So if you want to lift the lid and allow the fullest expression

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of who you are to emerge, you must tune out all the noise, go

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with him. And listen to your soul voice to find that clarity

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and to define who you are for yourself as you listen, a

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competence and who you really are and what you want will grow.

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And you'll feel the desire to share that part of you with

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others like I shared with my husband when I told him I wanted

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to have God in my life. And when you share more of who you really

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are with others, even just one other trusted soul, you begin to

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fanned the flames of your soul's desire and the clarity about who

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you are and what you want burns hot. Soon, that lid is bouncing

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on your beautiful burbling pot, and it will more easily slide

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off as you emerge fully understanding, embracing and

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loving who you are. This is the power of looking inward and

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listening to your soul boys. If you need a reminder on how to

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quiet all the noise so you can better tune into that soul

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voice. Go back and listen to episode number 19 quieting the

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monkey brain. investing time to get clear about who you really

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are and what you want does take effort and you might joyful

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journey or are so worth that effort. I hope my personal story

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in this episode inspires you to invest more time looking inward

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and listening. So you can lift the lid and allow the fullest

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expression of you to emerge. If you want to go deeper with this

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work, I offer a three month mentoring program specifically

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and create a life aligned with your true higher self. Visit

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me today joyful journeyer we'll catch you next time. Thanks.

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